Why Balance in Motherhood Isn’t Enough

We’ve heard it a million times before.

Life is all about balance.

Yet, rarely is the phrase mentioned with any useful advice on how to master this balance especially as a mom.

All that comes to my mind is walking a tightrope dressed in a food-stained blouse holding a beam with kids and the husband on one end and EVERYTHING else on the other.

The truth is we can try to balance our life, but inevitably something will come up.

Your child will get sick.

A deadline at work will have you working late.

Weeks of trying to do it all will leave you feeling exhausted and burnt out.

We don’t need more balance.

We need practical advice that actually works.

Something you can use after being up with babe five times at night, and still showing up to the office and being effective while you’re there.

This is what really works for mothers, and it doesn’t involve a tightrope.

Manage your energy not your time

Each day we’re dealing with countless energy drains but here’s how we can combat them.

Figure out where you’re energy is going each day.

Is it clearing up the endless clutter in your home?

Managing your to-do list?

Or maybe it’s setting boundaries with friends and family.

Tackle these energy drains one at a time. Start by cleaning up your home, cupboard by cupboard. You don’t have to throw all of your stuff in your living room and spend days sorting, but you can tackle the receipt drawer or the overstuffed toy chest.

Forget the to-do list

Start using a system to get things done.

Create a weekly schedule instead of a daily one, so you know what you absolutely need to get done.

Schedule your tasks and work in undisrupted blocks that include:

  • Putting your phone out of sight and programming it to only ring for important calls.
  • Close all of those pesky browser tabs.
  • Step out of the social media vacuum. Your ex’s latest vacay photos can wait

Limit your priorities to three per day.

No more, no less.

It’s time to set yourself up for success by being realistic about what you can get done.

Learn to say no with kindness

Don’t respond to any request big or small right away.

Too often when we’re on the spot we’ll quickly respond with a yes without thinking things through.

Maybe you don’t really have the time to volunteer at a school event, or you can’t take on another big project at work.

It’s okay to say no.

Honour yourself and your boundaries by not pushing yourself more than you need to.

Because the mom life struggle is difficult enough with adding even more things to our list.

Do less each day

Start by using the 80/20 rule.

This rule states that 80 percent of the results we achieve come from only 20 percent of our actions.

Shocking, but true.

To leverage the rule, start by identifying the most important things to you for your business and your life.

What are you doing that has the biggest impact in your life and the best results?

Is it sales calls?

Getting to bed early?

Mapping out your day the night before?

Spend your time doing what matters and cut down or cut out everything else.

Creating space in your calendar, so you aren’t rushing from one thing to the next is key along with scheduling in tasks that need to get done, so they actually happen.

Give up the idea of perfection

You’ll have good days and bad days.

Give yourself grace.

You’ll miss the Mother’s Day tea at your child’s daycare (true story).

You’ll forget to make something for the community bake sale.

You’ll feel guilty rushing to work in the morning when your littlest just wants to cuddle.

Despite it all, you are an incredible mom.

You’re doing the best you can and that’s what matters.

Ask for help

We’re ingrained to believe we’re all need to be super moms as a requirement of modern motherhood.

Not true.

We need our tribe and our village more than ever. Even if we feel like we don’t always have access to help we need to find it.

Maybe it’s asking to work from home once or twice a week or it’s finding good, affordable childcare.

Do what you need to get help every once in a while.

Your wellness and sanity depend on it.

Practice true self-care

I love a spa day as much as anyone but true self-care isn’t about what we do for ourselves every once in a while, it’s what we do for ourselves daily that counts.

It’s the time we take even when we feel like we don’t have enough to exercise. It’s reading an inspirational book for a few minutes each day or waking up early to relax and enjoy your coffee before the mom responsibilities begin.

It’s saying no to yet another scheduled activity that leaves us feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

It’s spending less time with that friend that can’t help pressing our buttons and pointing out our biggest insecurities.

It’s saying yes to ourselves a little bit each day.

It’s acknowledging we don’t need to fit more into our days to feel worthy.

We are enough as it is.

The only thing we need to balance is the good thoughts to counteract the negative ones.

For everything else we just need real tools that work.

Discover how to make your well-being a REAL priority in the 14-day Love Yourself Challenge including how to:

  • Carve out time even when you feel like you have none
  • Nurture your soul by making time for your passions
  • Take me time without feeling guilty
  • Silence your inner critic and listen to your true voice instead

It’s time. Give yourself the wellness you deserve Mama!

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12 Comments

  • Reply Sam January 25, 2019 at 9:31 am

    Learning to say no is not always easy but so necessary. Thanks for the reminder. It’s important to give our energy to things that are important to us.

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:51 am

      Yes Sam! We only have so much energy so we have to give it where it matters most!

  • Reply alunderfullife January 25, 2019 at 11:56 am

    Saying no, with kindness (I love this part), is something I told myself I wanted to work on this year and I know it will help me stay grounded more. Thank you for all of these great tips!

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:53 am

      You’re very welcome! I’m so happy to help as I know saying no is a tough one for women and mothers. I struggle with it a lot myself but respecting our own boundaries is so important.

  • Reply Anissa | Mama Goes Beyond January 25, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    It’s such a juggling act being a mom, isn’t it? I totally agree with you on setting a weekly schedule rather than a daily one. Every Sunday night, I map out a few things I really want to accomplish that week in each area of my life. It really helps me to remember what my priorities are. Thanks for all of the food for thought!

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:55 am

      Yes, it really is such a juggling act! Having a weekly schedule instead of a daily one has helped me so much. So glad to hear that it’s working for you too!

  • Reply Modern Moms Club January 25, 2019 at 3:06 pm

    Omg I was just explaining this to my partner. As a mother, SAHM and WFHM schedules are not my thing anything can pop up and through me off. He looked at me like I was crazy lol

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:57 am

      It’s hard for everyone to understand but what matters is what works for you! Hope these tools help!

  • Reply riannagalvez January 25, 2019 at 6:11 pm

    Aaaah this is sooo true!! This is the perfect article for me right now. I feel like I am always rushing myself to do every task just so I can accomplish everything without realizing I am already getting burned out!

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:58 am

      Thank you. I’m so happy to hear this helped!

  • Reply Livelearnbetter (@livelearnbetter) January 26, 2019 at 6:02 pm

    I love the part of asking for help. Sometimes moms are just so busy and we don’t know how to ask for help. Sometimes you just can’t do it all

    • Reply Simply Be Mama January 28, 2019 at 9:59 am

      Asking for help is so tough but in my experience people are usually very willing to jump in. Us mamas need to do more of it and not feel guilty for doing so.

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